The “Fast Girl” label fails Black Girls

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It’s been forever, I know. I’ve missed this platform but #SurvivingRKelly has brought me out of writing retirement. I originally planned on skipping the R. Kelly docu-series altogether because we know what he is at this point. The cult story came out nearly 2 years ago and that was 20 years after he married Aaliyah at age 15 but the social media discussions were so widely varied, I got curious. 

The documentary presents so many issues which deserve further examination but I want to focus on the narrative about the fast/fass girl” angle. In my part of the African-American community, fast was literally the worst thing you could be or be perceived to be as a young girl. In short, a “fast” girl is a girl who is a sexual being. If you’re unfamiliar with the term, just imagine a less sophisticated but way more problematic version of slut-shaming. I’ve been slut-shamed as an adult and accused of being “fast” as a child. Being accused of being fast was way, way, way worse. Continue reading

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2017 Planner Review

 

2017 May Designs

Hey Lovers, I know it’s been nearly forever but if I told you what’s been going on, you wouldn’t believe me. Keep reading for a review of my 2017 planner and a preview of my 2018 planner. 

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Review: We Should All Be Feminists

flawlessHey Lovers, 

Happy New Year! One of my goals for 2017 is to read more. For Christmas, I got a Kindle. My first purchase was “We Should All Be Feminists” by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. Feminism has had more than 15 minutes of fame recently. Like most of the world, I first learned of Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie when she was featured on Beyonce’s song “Flawless.” What I did not know was the excerpt we hear in “Flawless” was adopted from a TED Talk. Unlike most of the world, I prefer to read about things before I go labeling myself willy nilly. 

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Success at Mizzou has nothing to do with Black Friday

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Hey Lovers,

By now I’m sure you’ve heard about the events going on at the University Of Missouri. If you haven’t heard more than sound bites, read about it here  and here.

I had heard about the football team’s boycott briefly. Since I’m not a sports fan of any kind, I usually only hear about anything sports related briefly. The story did not blow up until the football team’s efforts were successful. University President Tim Wolfe resigned.

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Love & Hip Hop Hollyhuh?

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Hey Lovers, 

I was on a call last night so I didn’t get the chance to watch Love & Hip Hop with you live. Following are just a few of thoughts. Let me apologize in advance. This post would’ve gone up sooner but someone decided to jump out the window with me on Facebook. I digress. Let’s continue. 

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